A Reflection on Women’s History Month
March 1, 2022
As I reflect on Women’s History Month, I feel inclined to think about the women closest to me—the matriarchs of my family. They won’t be found in history books years from now, nor will you find news clippings of their local accomplishments. They can be found in our family photo albums and in the hearts and minds of the people they’ve touched.
What I remember most about the women in my family is that they did it all! They worked, they cared for their children, and they cared for the home. They served at church and often served as a hub for people in their neighborhoods who were in need, even when they didn’t have much to give.
With this being my view of womanhood—filled with examples of women who could do it all—I found myself trying to do it all as well. I see a lot of women in education doing the same thing. We gloat about balancing pick-up, drop-off, dinner, homework, care of loved ones, engaging presentations, and well-run classrooms, schools and meetings.
Yet, through all the hustle and bustle, did we set aside time for self-care?
The women in my life taught me how to grind, and I wouldn’t be who I am today without that lesson. However, I didn’t learn how to rest.
As women, we often wear “tired” as a badge of honor, as if it deems us more worthy of holding our current roles. We often choose work that involves the heart, and heart work is hard work. Nevertheless, we must remember that caring for ourselves is essential.
Prioritizing yourself isn’t selfish; it’s necessary to continue to be your best. I want to urge women to discover their passions outside of their vocation and make time for the other things that they love. Engaging in these activities bring rest and the renewal we need to continue moving forward.
I want my children to say that their mother did work that mattered, and she did it well. With that said, I want them to know that what mattered was not only my work for others, but also the activities I did for myself. Balance is the gift I want to leave behind.
As we reflect on the legacy of women and all that they have accomplished, let’s also think about how we must care for ourselves in order for us to do the same.